My understanding is that a significant aspect of the “Civil War” was foreign influence, prodding both the north and south. It’s a great plan, divide and conquer. Pit the locals against each other, to fight each other, and you get to swoop in later and take it all.
FORTUNATELY for the USA, at the time, we did not wipe each other out, or become so weak we could be invaded.
But sure you did. You were most easily invaded. Proof enough that a man who is wanting to claim independence, cannot think of the USA (aka government entity) and himself as separate entities but rather always as "we." You also referred to the fortune as belonging to the USA and then said WE right afterwards, marrying yourself in the rest of our eyes, with the USA government entity. Peculiar view, but also very common in nation states where the government holds total sway over the general populace.
Your ancestors were most easily enslaved, in that they were baited into a rigged game by an internal conqueror (Lincoln's USA) financed and backed by various external interests along with corresponding internal corruption.
This "we" you speak of does not, and never did exist. You can tell how this abusive relationship works (wife(confederacy) wants to leave the relationship (Union), and dear Abby Lenin in the role of Hubby, beats her half dead and then rapes her while she struggles until she stops.) The kids get raised by abusive daddy, who then lets some kids lord it over the others, until the kids identify ONLY with daddy, while mommy's left to be daddy's plaything tied to the table in the rape room (courtesy Saddam Hussein and his ilk, all "daddies" and "uncles" copycatting the original big daddy LIncoln.)
As someone put it... IN EVERY OTHER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD... slavery vanished slowly as it proved to be less effective than the fraud of democratic government (it is easier to promise the suckers they'll keep some while giving you most of it, than to whip them constantly and watch out for rebellion... in exchange, they'll drag each other back down into the new slavery and save you the expense of being ever vigilant and hiring expensive overseers to keep them slaves in line.). In America, this "we" you speak of, were stupid and vicious enough to fight a huge war over something, and it wasn't even slavery! Whether truly about slavery, or not, that single statement, and I forgot where I've read it years back, pretty much covers exactly why any form of change in America WILL be violent, regardless our personal wishes, and why so many Americans are expatriating or getting out of the red states where the takeover will be far more violent than anywhere else.
Given the mental state of the average American, the takeover WILL happen, because
the capability for violence IS NOT the measure of freedom of a people, or male chickens would be free range birds instead of stew. Intelligence and REAL education in sciences and history are the true measure of a people's capability, and don't even bother expecting Americans to exhibit this. That was bred out and stamped out of the entire cultural landscape, decades if not a century ago. What's left is a manipulated farce.
These are my observations. YMMV.