I actually put this list together a few years ago, trying to be "logical" although I know a lot of it is pretty subjective. I used to sort of give scores between 1 and 10 for each attribute or point, then I found this guy who scored more than 10 on every one of the issues,
and so I chose him
and kept him, and he didn't and doesn't need any changing from whom he is at all, not even a tiny bit, which is good, because I am a very lazy person, and changing other people is very hard work and, besides which, it is, well, impossible.
Feralfae's Checklist for Considering Guys
1.I can admire and respect him as a man and as a human.
2.He has a beautiful and strong spirit;
3.He can keep up with me, more or less, intellectually and physically;
4.Hi isn’t afraid of change and challenges;
5.He doesn't mind if I go running off to run or climb or hike or backpack occasionally, although of course it's better if he comes along, but only sometimes;
6.He would also need to be able to make and know how to use tools, more or less, be an artist, artisan or some sort of stuff-shaper, although someone who makes music might be just as nice. If he can fix cars and make things of wood, he gets extra points, especially if he can work on MGs and make shelves;
7.He must have a life of his own that fascinates him and me, have a strong sense of self and love life;
8.He needs to be free of serious substance abuse or addictions, of course, and sane is a good thing, too;
9.He really, really needs to be able to communicate, share, and explore ideas. Very important. ;
10.Cute and sweet would be very, very nice. Tall, lanky, dark hair.;
11.Oh, Libertarian or anarcho-capitalist would help as would a great relationship with God. Needs to believe in God, as I cannot abide that much difference;
12.Understands that we all fall, are bent or broken but that the only way to go on is to pick up the pieces and go for it! Every time.;
13.Understands that life is an adventure, and that days are made to celebrate time by living life, not killing time;
14. Painfully honest, even if I think he is too honest sometimes. I think he had better be pretty smart, too;
15.Have an exquisite sense of humor and curiosity!
So, even though this seems like a pretty long list, I actually found this guy who got 10+ on every one of the points above!
We DO know what we want!
And we find it, too!
(He already knows all this, and of course it is da Doug.)
(feral fae tosses fairydust sprinkles in pure joy at the thought of this **** .. ***.. *.*.*...*** )